Meet Your Coaches
Shaykh Suhail and Ustadha Lobna are here to help you enhance and nurture your marriage.
Ustadha Lobna Mulla
Ustadha Lobna Youssef Mulla
- Member – Board of Directors, Yaqeen Institute for Islamic Research
- IOK Muslim Chaplain, UCLA
- Creator – YouTube Channel, Double Shot Mocha Productions
- Master’s of Fine Arts in Screenwriting, Chapman University
- Former National Tarbiya Director, Muslim American Society
What are the Signs of the Divine?
And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts). Verily in that are signs for those who reflect.
وَمِنْ ءَايَـٰتِهِۦٓ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَٰجًۭا لِّتَسْكُنُوٓا۟ إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةًۭ وَرَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّ فِى ذَٰلِكَ لَـَٔايَـٰتٍۢ لِّقَوْمٍۢ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ
“Our Lord! Bless us with spouses and offspring who will be the joy of our hearts.”
وَٱلَّذِينَ يَقُولُونَ رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَٰجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّـٰتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍۢ وَٱجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا
Marriage is a
Sign of the Divine
Amidst our hectic schedules we sometimes forget that Allah created spouses for us so that we may find tranquility with them. “What?! Our lives are anything but tranquil,” you may be thinking. Indeed, things may have started that way. But now, amidst talking about your children’s schooling, sports practice, qur’an memorization, bills, and about your respective in-laws, you find that you have been talking “at” each other, not feeling heard or understood, and consequently, frustrated. Well, there’s good news and bad news.
The good news is that this type of rut is normal, but it should only be temporary. The good news is also that with commitment and desire from both parties, you can get back on track and bring love and mercy back into your relationship.
The bad news? If couples don’t take time to reflect, find the courage to communicate their needs in a thoughtful and effective manner, and spend quality time together; these ruts turn into a lifestyle, which can lead to resentment, anger, and, even worse, a silent distance.