A One-of-a-Kind Experience
Choose from two different retreats
This full weekend journey combines Shaykh Suhail and Ustadha Lobna's life experience, Islamic understanding and scholarship, coupled with their training as Gottman Leaders for "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work."
- Intimate setting with 10-12 couples per retreat
- 10-12 hours of instruction and real-time exercises between you and your spouse
- Couples will be seated together to maximize privacy
Jazak Allahu Khairan for this amazing experience. I am grateful for this opportunity to learn how to improve my marriage through these principles, more importantly grounded in Islamic values which has been something we've been looking for.
You normalized such important conversations which has helped normalize them for us as a couple. I've already started using these tools which has helped [in] my conversations with my spouse. Allah bless you both and your families.
Both of you guys, Masha'Allah, are so personable and relatable and [that] made us feeling "naked" and vulnerable much easier. I really love you guys.
[The exercise Overcoming] Gridlock...was the meat of our issues and gave us exactly what we needed, which was practice working through our own issue. Having the facilitated format gave us structure to be productive with our gridlock.
The quality - occasion exercise was powerful. It allowed my spouse to express how he feels [about] and sees me. Such feelings are never shared.
Very practical. Very real. Framework based on real-life scenarios to move us from A to B. We've done some of these things but didn't know how to complete them. We know we have challenges but not how to address them. This weekend gave structure to our internal times of chaos.
Attending this retreat gave us the skills, motivation, and confidence to lovingly address issues rather than sweeping them under the rug.
6 months after attending the Muslim Marriage Retreat, we are still feeling the impact of that weekend. I believe that’s for 2 reasons:
1) The retreat helped us re-establish the loving foundation where we found that place of thinking well of each other and assuming good intentions instead of going to a place of being easily offended.
2) We have had several months to continue to practice the skills we learned together. The result is more appreciation and a deeper understanding of each other - what works, what doesn’t work, and a desire to continue to know each other and support each other at a deeper level.
We are forever grateful for the experience, Alhamdulillah, and recommend it to new couples, long-time married couples, and everyone in between.
The goal of this retreat is to deepen the connection between you and your spouse by providing effective methods on how to:
Increase empathy and understanding
Increase intimacy, respect, and affection
Remove barriers that lead to stagnation
Disarm conflicting verbal communication
"The seven principles for making marriage work"
- Structure, motivation and accountability to work through these exercises.
- An easy, non-confrontational pathway into working on your relationship.
- An encouraging environment where you work with your spouse in the context of other couples doing the same thing.
- Encouragement for both spouses to work on the relationship rather than one spouse alone reading the book.
Signs of the Divine
وَمِنْ ءَايَـٰتِهِۦٓ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَٰجًۭا لِّتَسْكُنُوٓا۟ إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةًۭ وَرَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّ فِى ذَٰلِكَ لَـَٔايَـٰتٍۢ لِّقَوْمٍۢ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ
And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts). Verily in that are signs for those who reflect.
رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَٰجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّـٰتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍۢ
"Our Lord! Bless us with spouses and offspring who will be the joy of our hearts."
Marriage is a sign of The Divine
Amidst our hectic schedules we sometimes forget that Allah created spouses for us so that we may find tranquility with them. "What?! Our lives are anything but tranquil," you may be thinking. Indeed, things may have started that way. But now, amidst talking about your children's schooling, sports practice, qur'an memorization, bills, and about your respective in-laws, you find that you have been talking "at" each other, not feeling heard or understood, and consequently, frustrated. Well, there's good news and bad news.
The good news is that this type of rut is normal, but it should only be temporary. The good news is also that with commitment and desire from both parties, you can get back on track and bring love and mercy back into your relationship.
The bad news? If couples don't take time to reflect, find the courage to communicate their needs in a thoughtful and effective manner, and spend quality time together; these ruts turn into a lifestyle, which can lead to resentment, anger, and, even worse, a silent distance.(read more)
What do you get when you put two California natives of Egyptian and Indian descent who happen to be an Imam, Social Worker, Chaplain and Community Educator together? Uh... a really crowded room? You get the depth of experience that Shaykh Suhail Mulla and Ustadha Lobna Mulla have shared with multiple communities over the past two decades.
We have seen the pain that many of our friends and community members have endured during divorce.
We have also seen the detrimental effects that divorce has on children, the extended families and on the community-at-large. While we acknowledge that sometimes divorce is a very necessary measure, our intimate, first-hand knowledge of the details of many divorces has made us realize that many of these marriages could have been saved had there been an intervention early on.
As a result, we decided to take a proactive role in not only preventing divorce, but also making marriages thrive. And, by the way, not all troubled marriages end in divorce. Sometimes marriages wither and fade for years, if not decades. Wouldn't you rather learn the skills that contribute to a healthy marriage instead of feeling stuck in a lifeless marriage?
With 23 years of marriage experience, Shaykh Suhail and Ustadha Lobna are excited to offer you
The Muslim Marriage Rejuvenation Retreat!
Shaykh Suhail and Ustadha Lobna are here to help you enhance and nurture your marriage.
Ustadha Lobna MullaChaplain, motivational speaker & community educator
Ustadha Lobna Mulla
Ustadha Lobna Youssef Mulla is a motivational speaker and community educator. She is best known for her optimistic, positive and engaging style with audiences. Lobna is a member of the Board of Directors of Yaqeen Institute for Islamic Research. Additionally, she serves as an IOK Muslim Chaplain at UCLA. Lobna is the former National Tarbiya Director of the Muslim American Society, where she is still an active member. And Lobna is the co-founder of the Muslim Marriage Rejuvenation Retreat.
Ustadha Lobna has been working as a youth mentor for the past two decades in multiple capacities. She has organized youth camps, led study circles, taught classes in her community, and lectured extensively, nationally and internationally. In addition to being a mentor and speaker, Lobna has written for myvirtualmosque.com and the MAS Blog.
Lobna is a graduate of Chapman University with a Masters of Fine Arts in Screenwriting. She is the creator of the YouTube channel, Double Shot Mocha Productions, where she strives to promote social awareness through humor.
Lobna was born and raised in Los Angeles, California. She graduated from California State University, Northridge in Business Administration with a focus in Accounting. She worked as an accountant for ten years until she began her career as a mother. Lobna moved to Egypt for three years with her husband, Shaikh Suhail Mulla, and her children and studied Arabic, Qur’anic Recitation and Islamic Sciences under Azhari scholars. Lobna Mulla currently resides in Los Angeles, CA with her husband and four children.
Shaykh Suhail MullaImam, Social Worker, Chaplain
Shaykh Suhail Mulla
Shaykh Suhail Mulla is the Director of the Los Angeles branch of the Khalil Center – a community spiritual and psychological wellness center. Shaykh Suhail currently serves as Resident Scholar at the Islamic Society of West Valley in Canoga Park, CA. He also serves as the IOK Muslim Chaplain at both UCLA and CSUN. In addition, Shaykh Suhail serves as Religious Advisor to UMMA Community Clinic. And he is the co-founder of the Muslim Marriage Rejuvenation Retreat.
Shaykh Suhail has worked as a social worker in LAUSD and Sylmar Juvenile Court, has served as an Imam at the Islamic Society of Orange County and as Interim Executive Director and Director of Mental Health at Access California Services.
Shaykh Suhail earned his Bachelor’s Degree in African-American Studies from CSUN, his Master’s in Social Welfare from UCLA and another Bachelor’s Degree in Shari’ah (Islamic Law) from one of the world’s most prestigious Islamic seminaries – Al-Azhar University in Cairo, Egypt. He also completed a two year Islamic Studies program at Al-Asheera Al-Muhammadiya in Cairo, Egypt where he studied privately with numerous Azhari scholars.
Shaykh Suhail resides in Los Angeles with his wife and four children. He is a student of the outdoors and enjoys hiking, camping, backpacking, woodworking and gardening in his free time.
We have chosen two different first-class venues nestled in the majestic mountains of California for your weekend-long journey with your spouse.
This romantic rejuvenation retreat includes:
2 nights and 3 days of accommodation
10-12 Hours of Instruction
One textbook and two workbooks
Choose your Retreat
Sequoia High Sierra Camp (Elev. 8,282)
This retreat is an ADVENTURE from beginning to end! From the moment you approach the Sierra Nevada mountains until you leave, this retreat pushes you out of your comfort zone in an exciting and challenging way. The adventure starts with a windy and bumpy 2.5 mile unpaved road that leads to Sequoia High Sierra Camp's dirt parking lot (not the time to bring your low rider :) Next, you have a one-mile hike up to a beautiful and secluded, high-altitude camp.
The only belongings you bring will be what you can carry on your back (no rolling suitcases here!) You will be staying in a rustic one - room tent cabin with no electricity, truly allowing you to be one with the forest. There are clean, shared bath houses, one for women and one for men (with private outdoor showers). You will get a workout as you hike from cabin to bathhouse to the awe-inspiring dining pavilion. And the setting for the classroom? An open-air pavilion overlooking the forest. Just let that soak in...
After a day of "aha!" moments and lessons learned, what better way to end the day then by feasting your eyes on breathtaking sunset views while dining on gourmet food with your loved one? Did we mention how delicious the food is? Hand-crafted baked goods, made to order omelettes, and meals created with love catered to meet halal and any other dietary needs are just some of the reasons why dining at the retreat is so special. In addition to the practical and insightful skills learned, this glamping adventure will provide a bonding experience as well as special memories to last a lifetime.
Arrive & Hike-in
Friday, July 22, 2022 at 1 pm
Sunday, July 24, 2022 at 12 noon
Hours of workshop/exercises
Couples who appreciate a full outdoor experience.
The teachers: awesome in almost every way!
The content: practical and effective.
The service: excellent accommodations and food.
[The] location really helped clear the mind and allowed nature to inspire the soul. Awesome balance between group conversation and couples' time. Facilitators: your perfect balance of personalities were a great model to observe.
UCLA Lake Arrowhead Conference Center (Elev. 5,174)
Nestled in the San Bernardino Mountains, this beautiful retreat site is a sight for city eyes. A lush green campus welcomes you to your weekend retreat. The sprawling grounds features beautiful open spaces, a gym, swimming pool, and tennis courts (for you early birds as our day is quite packed). You and your spouse will stay in a comfortable two-story chalet with two bedrooms and two bathrooms. Why two bedrooms? Why not? You and your spouse will reside in comfort as you reflect on the connecting moments and the day's lessons from the retreat sessions.
Dining is an experience here as well. Gourmet meals are fashioned by a warm and friendly Head Chef who caters to our dietary needs. Traditional indoor dining areas are provided as well as a fun, outdoor environment invoking a patio get-together-with-friends kind of feel. During the day, you and your spouse are sitting in one of the site's unique classrooms working on your relationship through an engaging and methodical process. At night, curl up with your spouse next to the fireplace in your chalet or explore the retreat's grounds.
At the end of this mountain getaway, you would have learned many invaluable skills to enhance your marriage as well as gained invaluable insights about yourself, your spouse and your marriage.
Friday, September 16, 2022 at 2 pm
Sunday, September 18, 2022 at 2 pm
Hours of workshop/exercises
A two-story, two-bedroom mountain chalet with beautiful mountain or lake views
Couples who appreciate a traditional setting.
Meets Historic Charm
Awesome program!!! Thank you for putting this together so professionally with ihsan (excellence)! Please keep offering and improving the program!!!
I am deeply grateful to you both for conducting and putting together this retreat. It is my dua come true. We have benefitted deeply from retreats and conferences like this, but this exact Muslim Marriage retreat was missing.
Who should attend?
- Couples married for decades, those recently married and all couples in between
- Couples striving to always improve their marriage
- Couples whose marriage has gone stagnant
- Couples who wish to change their toxic relationship habits
Who should not attend?
- Couples whose marriage is on the brink of divorce
- Couples with severe relationship distress
- Couples with significant emotional or physical abuse
- Couples with serious emotional or mental health problems
Why not attend an online marriage course from the comfort of your own home? Do you really need to arrange for child care, take time off from work, and travel when you can learn online?
If you can take time from your spouse for work, you can take time from work for your spouse.
Wait, there's no dinner cruise or horseback ride into the sunset included in the package? This doesn't sound very romantic.
Frequently Asked Questions
- Can this really help my marriage?
Yes, it really can. Come with an open mind and heart, and you are bound to come away with skills to better your relationship. The more effort you put in, the longer lasting the results.
- Why not spend the same amount of money and go to Hawaii? That's just what our marriage needs.
Who doesn't love Hawaii? The reality is, a romantic getaway alone is not going to teach you new skills that will help resolve old issues and foster a deeper connection. As a matter of fact, with just a trip alone, you will leave with your luggage and come back with the same "baggage". Then you'll be right back where you started.
- What if I want to go to the mountain resort retreat and my spouse wants to go to the glamping retreat?
We suggest that you go to the retreat that will make both you and your spouse feel comfortable. Is this the time to push someone out of their comfort zone? Not in our opinion. We want both parties to be happy and willing to attend the retreat. Consider this an exercise in the art of negotiation ;)
- You want me to share my secrets with the community?!
No, don't worry. Our workshops will consist of couples learning interactively amongst themselves. The real work is done during exercises that will only be between you and your spouse.
- What if my spouse doesn't want to come, can I come alone?
Nope. This is not a seminar, but an interactive retreat with joint exercises to benefit you and your spouse. Can you try to convince them? It's defintely worth a shot. You can share with them how incredible this retreat is going to be, Insha' Allah :)
- Can I come for just one day?
No, sorry. To reap the benefits of this retreat, both you and your spouse need to attend from beginning to end.
- What if I have food restrictions, will they be accommodated?
Yes, absolutely. Our venues are accustomed to catering to guests with a variety of dietary needs. Just fill in your request(s) at the time of registration and we will be sure to have your needs met to the best of our ability.
- What if we registered and we have to cancel last minute due to an emergency?
Unfortunately, we cannot fulfill refund requests made less than 30 days prior to retreat as, per facility policy, we will incur the full cost. If, however, we have someone on the waiting list who can take your spot, we will refund the full amount less a $100 administrative fee.
- Will there be other groups at the retreat alongside us?
Yes, but we have our own meeting rooms/spaces. The only time we will be sharing the same space is during meal times in the dining hall.
- This seems a bit expensive...
This is a high-end retreat in a beautiful setting with excellent accommodations and gourmet food. We are not packing dozens of people in a crowded hotel conference room to lower our costs. Instead, we are intentional in providing an intimate retreat in a small-group setting for maximum impact. And that comes with a cost. Most of the cost is for lodging, food, meeting space, materials, etc. Only about $500 per couple is for administrative costs.
- Will there be any safety measures in place to mitigate COVID exposure?
Yes, we will be enforcing any local mandates in terms of masking and social distancing. In addition, we will be requiring a negative PCR test to be taken within 72 hours of the start of the retreat.